Does it work?
Our answer as coaches is clear: no. Domination is control, is power. Strong, deep emotions come from deep layers, from parts of your personality that want and are allowed to contribute to your ego just as much as your rational parts.
The booklet “Die Kunst sich selbst aushalten” by Michael Bordt, which has already been reviewed and is highly recommended, describes the difference between self-control and self-awareness.
Emotions? Get rid of them! Impulsive reactions? Not mature! Fear, sadness, loneliness – better not let them happen. Self-control represses, walls in, prohibits unwanted parts of your personality. And at some point, these parts will break free again.
Self-awareness, on the other hand, advocates that you allow, observe and perceive. And in real depth. I already presented a little exercise on this in my last post: “the three questions” – feel free to read it!
By the way, self-awareness does not mean that you immediately allow every impulsive reaction. Instead, you develop an appreciation for the different parts of your personality. Listen attentively. And then make a confident decision about how you want to react with inner freedom.
This difference between self-awareness and self-control is essential for our coaching. We help you to perceive yourself better. We help you to see and allow the more emotional parts of yourself and thus become ‘whole’. We know that self-control always fails sooner or later – and is not the path to your true inner freedom.