The rebel is against it again. The environment has conspired against her. The world is bad – and the rebel keeps a close eye on her surroundings. She always finds good reasons in her environment to be the victim and – of course – to rebel. In her own way, she adapts to her environment.
How bad do you feel about the world? Are you a victim?
Sometimes rebels are good for teams, for companies. The eternally critical one, the one who sees risks, the one who is always warning. Sometimes, however, rebels are a great burden for others in the team and managers as well as in partnerships.
In fact, it is often difficult for the rebel herself. Behind the rebellious surface there is often a lot of fear, sadness, frustration, dissatisfaction, self-doubt and a self-esteem that has been diminished by the environment.
Unfortunately, people who are strong in this ego part (the ‘rebellious adapted child’ in the terminology of transactional analysis) are often less willing to seek help through coaching or therapy. After all, they think that the fault lies in the environment, not in the people themselves.
Sometimes rebels do come to us. Then with the question of how things can go on, how we can endure the world, how we can deal with the sadness, the anger, the frustration.
Coaching is then often initially about enabling a change of perspective. Helping the rebels to take on an observer role, to see positive things – and above all options for action. To explore new paths – and perhaps to take them. And: we often work with our clients on the substance, on beliefs (I am a victim) and on self-esteem (I am worth nothing, I cannot shape my life).
Often a surprisingly richer, stronger person then develops. Just as open, critical and risk-conscious as before. But more open to trying new things, more open to life, more open to supporting the team and the manager. Inner healing often comes about through a change of perspective and leaving the ‘victim role’. Inner joy in life and a better sense of self-worth.
Would you like to get to know your ego states? Find ways to find more joy, peace and energy? Become “whole” and “strong” inside? Self-confident and self-assured? Taking the ‘wheel’ back into your own hands?
I would be happy to conduct an initial analysis of your ego states and patterns with you and reflect on the results together with you. Get in touch if you would like to know more about this “Short-term coaching on ego states”!
This article is part of the following mini-series on transactional analysis:
- How many am I? – A motivating introduction to transactional analysis
- How many am I? – The methodological and conceptual foundations of our coaching
- How many am I? Or: The caring and controlling project mother
- How many am I? Or: The little dictator
- How many am I? Or: The cold ice princess
- How many am I? Or: ‘The adapted little one’ with the explosions
- How many am I? Or: The rebel and the always bad world
- How many am I? Or: The imprisoned, deeply unhappy artist and free spirit
- How many am I? Or: Your ‘egogram evaluation’
