Don’t be a sissy! We concentrate on performance, content. Stop all this sentimentalism and psychobabble. An Indian knows no pain. If you don’t perform, you’re out.
Do you know the cold, rational managers or employees who don’t allow themselves any feelings, who react to the feelings of others with flight or aggression? The hard-nosed rational managers – and are then surprised when the team’s performance, energy and fun are lost?
Do you find yourself again? Then perhaps your adult ego is dominant and your head is repressing and blocking other ego parts.
It is not often that a person who has distanced themselves from their feelings – and therefore also from the feelings of those around them – comes to us for coaching. If so, we sometimes see a person who is torn apart inside, someone who has separated their emotional life from themselves, who senses that there is something there – but can’t really get to it.
Our path in coaching is then about re-establishing inner contact between the probably brilliant intellect and the repressed feelings. To promote an inner dialog between these worlds. We then often work very successfully with methods that emphasize images and the body, such as the Zurich Resource Model.
Great things happen for people, managers and their teams when the two worlds – head and heart – start to strengthen each other. From an “either or” to a “both and”.
It is important to note that a strong adult ego is not a bad thing. Successful companies need intellectually brilliant managers. They also need empathy, understanding and openness to feelings – from which strong positive energies can arise.
Would you like to get to know your ego states? Find ways to more freedom, peace and energy? Become inwardly “whole”? Take the ‘wheel’ back into your own hands?
I would be happy to conduct an initial analysis of your ego states and patterns with you and reflect on the results together with you. Get in touch if you would like to know more about this “Short-term coaching on ego states”!
This article is part of the following mini-series on transactional analysis:
- How many am I? – A motivating introduction to transactional analysis
- How many am I? – The methodological and conceptual foundations of our coaching
- How many am I? Or: The caring and controlling project mother
- How many am I? Or: The little dictator
- How many am I? Or: The cold ice princess
- How many am I? Or: ‘The adapted little one’ with the explosions
- How many am I? Or: The rebel and the always bad world
- How many am I? Or: The imprisoned, deeply unhappy artist and free spirit
- How many am I? Or: Your ‘egogram evaluation’
